Ways in
which parents have contributed to poor performance of their children.
1. The teacher will do. Many are
the times parents have left their responsibilities hoping that teachers are the
answers to every sort of indiscipline to their children. A few weeks ago I was
walking at the local market accompanied by my sisters, then one parent was
telling the story of how his son had become a disgrace and disobedient at home.
She ended up commenting that when the boy makes it to school, the teacher will
take the responsibility to patch him and make him obedient, disciplined and a
success. She got it wrong here; the reason being that at school the boy is
going to be a double disgrace to her. Firstly, many meetings are going to be
planned between her and the administration to sort the messes. Secondly, she
could have consumed her productive time and money to run to school to sort what
could have been corrected and rectified in time. Teachers are a continuation to
excellence and not rehabilitators.
2. You don’t understand my child.
You are a too much. Most parents think their children are saints. As a result
of too much love, over protectiveness and arrogance they tend to think if their
children are wrong, it is a just one incident thing. Let me tell you, what you
don’t know is that most teachers are parents too, they are professional and skilled
to handle and to train your children. Instead of becoming defensive, why can’t
you sit down asses the whole situation? Calm down and take time to be on the
other side. Maybe your child is hiding some character. Form collaboration with
the teacher and follow up your child with the assistance of the teacher.
3. Mean. Most parents don’t value
the time they are needed at school. They politicize instead of prioritizing
their children’s needs, wants and demands. Whenever they are invited to be at
school they have got all kinds of excuses including busy at work, running
errands and worst of all, it is the same old story in parent school meetings.
Parent should understand that the time they have with their children is brief
and limited, therefore the available time should be exhausted and maximized to
the fullest. Attend parents’ day, graduation celebrations and award ceremonies.
Nothing is more gratifying to the children than seeing their parents cheering,
smiling and proud of them from the crowd.
4. Criticizing teachers in front
of their children. Children should be taught respect through the mirror.
To children all people should be treated equally with social justice. If
children are taught and learn to disrespect, their minds would be already polluted.
Don’t sow hatred in children. Avoid undermining, abusing, scorning and
criticizing teachers in the presence of children. The same measure you use is
the same or even worse still they will use toward such teachers. Don’t expect
anything to be bought by pupils if they already know that their teachers are
worthless. Face the teacher separately and discuss your case if you seem to
have a personal vendetta or seeing something that should be tackled maturely.
5. Siding with teachers. This is
so common when children are in the adolescence stage. During these times
parents tend to get the negative only. Even teachers would be wrong at some
point. If your child is facing a challenges and they have extended to school
don’t show partiality but rather identify the problem and tackle it with love
and discipline. Your child needs your protection when they are facing external
forces but then not at a personal siding way. Just because
you didn't agree at home, the school should expect the same. Where do
you expect them to run to?
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